I didn’t get the job
Yesterday I failed to get the job I applied for.
I didn’t fail in an awful and irreparable way but in a way that attacks my ego. I failed to convince a hiring manager and persons at the organization that I was the best candidate for the position. A position I honestly wanted. And I’m one of those women who only apply if I meet 100% of the criteria so I know that, on paper at least, I should be a good prospect.
Instead, today I received one of these letters:
Thank you for applying for a position to us. You didn’t get the job. To make you feel as though going through the process wasn’t a waste however, we’ll dangle the carrot of a future job in front of you by saying we’ll consider you.
You sucked. That’s why we picked someone else.
The Hiring Manager That Didn’t Want You
Yeah, the ego is a fragile thing.
The Process of Applying for a Job
Nothing screws with your day like being rejected by people you don’t know and have never met. I feel that the process of applying for jobs should be something that is taught more in school. Millennials are less likely to have 1 or 2 jobs for their whole lives.
Applying for a job is an odd thing, really. Especially in Human Rights where a Master’s degree is the bare minimum to be hired to any position.
I’ve had my Masters degree for a grand total of 2 months now. 2 months is not enough time to be frustrated.
But damn it, I wanted that job.
So while I have to deploy patience and remember that Rome was not built in a day, I also have to remember that I’ve never been rejected from a job that hasn’t freed me up for a better opportunity in the future.
The Process of Applying for Jobs Over and Over
- You are nervous and aren’t sure if you meet the criteria.
- Look at your CV/resumé and decide that maybe you do meet the criteria.
- Fill out the online application forms.
- You write your cover letter like a dating form.
You don’t like tomatoes?! I don’t like tomatoes either!
You want someone with 5 years of experience. I have 6! *wink wink*
- Exhaust yourself into believing that you have met the hiring manager’s criteria. The job posting may be vague but if you read it 12 times, maybe you can get some special insight!
- Put the cover letter and CV/resumé together in an email.
- Draft an email that doesn’t repeat what is in either of those documents but doesn’t make you sound absolutely dunce either.
- Proofread the email.
- Send the email 5 minutes before the deadline because you were re-reading it over and over so it would be perfect.
- Wait minutes/hours/days/never to receive a response that they have received the email.
- Be hopeful that maybe no news is good news and you’ll soon hear from them.
- Receive a “Thank you for applying but you suck” letter.
- Start all over again.
What I did after I didn’t get the job
My Mind Soothed Me
The human mind is an amazing thing. When you are disappointed, the mind can convince you that you didn’t even want the thing in the first place.
Like this job. All of a sudden, my mind came up with 5 good reasons that it was for the best that I didn’t get it.
- I wouldn’t be able to keep up with the blog as well if I had the job.
- I wanna stare at my family for a bit longer. Jobs get in the way of that.
- It’s really too hot to be moving around so much.
- I’ve just started the gym. Abs > Work.
- Maybe it just wasn’t the best opportunity for me.
My Friends Comforted Me
I told my friends. Bless them. They were 150% in my corner.
They went off on the people, clearly deciding that not hiring me was the Hiring Manager’s loss.
Nothing makes me feel happier than the people I love deciding that we’re moving on to the next job application because the last one didn’t appreciate me enough.
There is immense power in that.
I Practiced Gratitude
It is so easy to feel shitty about being rejected by imaginary people. I’ve never met them so they are imaginary.
I’ve never met them so they are imaginary. Duh.
So I had to step back at the sting to my ego and look at my life. And honestly, I live and lead a pretty awesome life. Filled with friends, family, food, and my Kindle. It is truly difficult for me to be devastated when I have so much going for me.
It’s all a matter of perspective.
I Wrote A Blog Post
People, this is what I do!
You aren’t a singer if you don’t sing.
You aren’t a writer if you don’t write.
You aren’t a blogger if you don’t blog.
And since I updated my LinkedIn profile and added this website, I don’t think it makes sense for me to say I write a blog if I…don’t consistently write anything.
What Happens Next
Since my cheque for my lottery winnings is clearly lost in the mail and my trust fund has yet to be set up, I’m going to keep applying for jobs. But getting my first rejection letter for this application cycle is both sobering and a reminder to keep going.
I’ve applied for new jobs every single year for the last 15 years. Being rejected sucks every single time.
But at least this time, they thanked me for applying.